Depression

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In fact, “appearing cheerful and confident” itself is often a symptom of depression. Because outsiders’ severe unprofessional intervention when dealing with depression, once any gloominess or negativity is revealed, it easily attracts a large amount of crude, unhelpful “concern” and “comfort”. Depressed people often acutely sense that the initiators of such “concern” and “comfort” often hold a mentality of “paying to buy peace”. Once the initiator has “shown concern” and “comforted”, but the ...

A: To people who say “you don’t understand depression”, what a pity! A: In fact, when people make the judgement “you don’t understand how I feel”, it often has nothing to do with the facts. It’s just a preemptive way of “invalidating” reactions they don’t like. It’s similar to when someone loses a loved one, and sees that others don’t show the “sympathy” and “comfort” they expected, so they declare “you don’t understand my pain”. But when saying this, is there any real investigation or verifica ...

A: To be honest, telling depressed people “it’s not your fault, it’s the world’s fault” is a moral issue. A: I’ve written so many passages, yet some people are beyond persuasion. In short, they listen to whoever speaks nicely, listen to whoever says the mistake is not yours, listen to whoever helps me curse my parents, the government, teachers, schools. As a depressed person, the only thing you really need to think about is “where did I go wrong”. If you still think you did everything right and ...

Then, some people will criticize you for being “blindly optimistic”. I believe you should not feel unfamiliar with such criticism. This kind of thing usually happens like this - A discovers that B does not see a certain risk but maintains an optimistic expectation of the matter. So A will explain this danger to B, and then advise B “don’t be blindly optimistic”. This plot happens over and over again, naturally as breathing. Right? “Blind optimism”, what a terrible thing. “You are being blindly o ...

Outside of this, optimism and pessimism do not exist. What exists is the question of “how to face the challenge of facts” mixed into the issue of optimism and pessimism. But this confusion carries great weight, so we will address this related issue separately - the answer is no matter whether you feel the facts make you delighted or fearful, your guesses are wrong. What you need to do is discern all aspects of the definite event about to happen, and make the proper response. All facts that are c ...

Let’s look at this big question again - should people be optimistic or pessimistic? This seems like a ridiculous question - of course one should pursue optimism, how could anyone pursue pessimism? Maintain pessimism? This greatly underestimates the appeal of pessimism. The reason pessimists love pessimism is that they feel pessimism is safe. If I’m pessimistic and my prediction of misfortune comes true, then I’m prepared; if I’m pessimistic but it surprisingly doesn’t happen, then I gain a pleas ...

After seeing clearly that “luck is the foundation of everything”, many people not only did not feel relieved, but became more nervous - so how can I be sure that I will continue to be lucky in the future? This is a very good question. Indeed, if luck is so crucial, doesn’t it make the future even more unpredictable for me? At this point, there are a few things you need to resolve: First, truly let go of your arrogance. What is truly letting go of arrogance? It means starting to recognize how po ...

In fact, the way out lies within the crisis itself. You were right in the first half - life is indeed full of risks beyond your control, lying in ambush to strike you at any time, and you don’t stand a chance against them. It’s natural to feel afraid at the thought of having to live like this for the rest of your life. But you also need to realize - the first half of your life was precisely lived in this way. In fact, there was not a moment in the first half of your life that was not spent navig ...

The longer a person lives, the higher the probability that they will encounter low-probability events with major destructive impacts. Firstly, a sufficiently long time span in itself means an inevitability that low-probability events will occur. It doesn’t matter if it happens, or if you get hit once, the problem is when you look back on the whole process, you’ll find that you have no way to exclude the possibility of it happening again in your next long-term plan. No matter what kind of plannin ...

Let’s first lay out these few restrictions, then look at two fundamental paths to overcoming depression. First, let’s talk about the first path - the fundamental mistake made by depressed people. What is this fundamental mistake? It is when one believes there is no hope left, and when all the people one believes in and looks up to also believe there is no hope, then one believes there really is no hope. If depressed people want to walk out of the dark cave where they cannot see any light, then r ...

#Pessimism and Optimism# Regarding solutions for pessimism, there are many popular answers. So let’s first set some basic standards for potentially qualified solutions: 1) Marginal utility cannot diminish. That is, the solution cannot gradually lose effectiveness. If it diminishes gradually, as the diminishing trend is noticed, it will in fact lose effectiveness the instant the diminishing trend is noticed. This is because pessimists are extremely sensitive - they are already highly vigilant fo ...